27 things I’ve learned in 27 years!

  1. What screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how it’s supposed to be.

    Before I started writing this article, I had a look at the same article that I wrote last year when I turned 26 and not a lot has changed. 26 saw me start my first permanent teaching job and that was a big win for me. I love teaching what I teach and I absolutely love being a teacher. BUT, landing this job has made me realise that there is still so much more I want to do with my life, this is a brilliant stepping stone which I am so grateful for.

    I started 26 trying to figure out what I wanted from this crazy world. 365 days later, we are STILL in the middle of trying to survive a pandemic and I’m still trying to figure out what I want from this crazy world. 26, you have taught me so much. 26 has undoubtedly been the most difficult, the most heartbreaking, and the most painful year of my life. It brought smiles and some good memories, but it also brought a lot of tears, sadness and heartbreak.

    In honour of me turning 27, here are 27 things that I have learned in my twenty seven years of being on this earth.
  2. The world lied to you. Your late twenties are the hardest years of your life: I’ve just turned 27 and I have no idea where my life is heading or what I’m doing. Everyone else around me seems to have a plan or some sort of direction where they are heading, like the friends and acquaintances that I went to school with seem to be doing okay.

    I honestly think your late twenties can be even more anxiety-inducing than your early twenties. Your late twenties is when shit gets real. Society has taught us to believe that your late twenties is when you will really see your life fall together, you should be on track to have it all together by the time you reach 30. BUT, what if you are not? What if you are almost 30 and still don’t have any sense of direction?
  3. Coffee is everything: YEP! Still functioning and facing life with a coffee in my hand.
  4. The real world sucks: Adulthood is not as glamorous as you imagined it to be when you were growing up. Expectations start getting thrown at you from every direction. A part of you knows that you need to be responsible, you have responsibilities, bills to pay and student debts, but, you are still young and want to run wild free.
  5. Tennis saved my life — I will forever be grateful to the sport: Tennis is such an underrated sport.
  6. Keep reading books: We lose ourselves in books, we find ourselves there too.
  7. Always choose love: Because no matter what, love will always wins.
  8. Just because someone else has it worse, that doesn’t make your pain any less: Everyone is going through a battle that you don’t know about, so be kind, always. Your mother may have died, but so did that persons brother. That doesn’t make their pain any less than yours. We all feel those exact same emotions, we all feel angry, frustrated, anxiety and grief.
  9. In a fast-paced world, remember to breathe: I need to remember to breathe!
  10. It’s impossible to remain positive 24/7: Trying to remain positive 24/7 is hard. I keep telling and reminding myself that everything is going to be okay, and I truly believe that everything will be okay eventually. But right now, everything is not okay. Right now, I am allowed to cry because my life isn’t going the way that I want it to, I’m allowed to complain because I feel so lost in every aspect of my life. I’m allowed to be angry and let it all out. I am allowed to panic and freak out before I try to pull myself together again.
  11. Keep writing: The more I write, the more this crazy world makes sense to me. I write because I truly believe that I am in control of how my story ends.
  12. The Truth Pixie by Matt Haig is the most beautiful book.
    ‘There will be people you love,
    Who can’t stay forever,
    And there will be things you can’t fix,
    Although you are clever.’
  13. The one thing that is promised in life is death: Growing up, grief and I have always been familiar. This year has taught me that life can change in the blink of an eye. I’ve come to learn that when you lose someone you love your reality changes and the pain never really goes away, you just become better at hiding it. The world still moves on, the world does not stop just because they died.
  14. Words are powerful: Words stay with us, long after they’re said. Words are the way people perceive other people, the way we inspire other people and the way we caress other people.
  15. Never let your imagination die: No one said it had to disappear when you grew up.
  16. People who say it’s too cold for ice cream is the kind of negativity that you do not need in your life: Sometimes ice cream really is the answer.
  17. “No thanks, I don’t want to” is a perfectly valid reason not to do something: It’s okay to simply say no to people. You don’t need to come up with made up excuses.
  18. The only thing we can control is how we react: This year I’ve learned that everything could be going wrong for me but I don’t have control over those things. I can’t control those things. The only thing I have control over is how I react to the things that are going wrong.
  19. Happiness is found in the smallest of things: I’ve come to learn that happiness is found in the little things in life, to me, happiness is in the first sip of coffee every morning, in listening to music, in the books that I read, in looking up at the night sky, in the smile of a child, in the conversations with my best friend and in art, in giving someone I love a very tight hug, in a heart felt “Thank You”, in breakfast dates and in writing. When one person’s idea of happiness is another person’s idea of stupidity, you begin to realise that happiness is nothing more than a subjective concept — an illusion of truth.
  20. It’s a bad day, not a bad life: Not everyday will be great and that’s okay. I think it’s so easy to focus on what’s wrong instead of what’s going right. I think it’s so important to remember that everyone has bad days, days where they feel so defeated and it feels like the world is against them, but on those days I think it’s important to remember is that bad days don’t last.
  21. Be your own cheerleader: Provide yourself with the love, kindness, and respect you deserve. Be your own best friend
  22. You will figure it out: You don’t need to have it all figured out to take a step forward.
  23. Not everyone is going to like you: At the end of the day, you are not going to please everyone. The sooner you realise this, the easier off you life will be.
  24. Be nice to people: The world needs more of them. There is enough hate in the world.
  25. It’s okay to cry: Things won’t go your way all the time: And that’s okay. There will be some things that you would really want in life, but you won’t get. Not just yet. Sometimes, there will be better things for you. Perfect time.
  26. It’s okay to make mistakes: Just don’t give up.
  27. Nothing is as bad as your mind makes it up to be: I’m the biggest over thinker. I spend most of the day making up scenarios is my head that eat me alive. I’ve learned this year that most of the time those thoughts never become reality, and if they do, it’s rarely as bad as we imagined.

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teacher, coffee, books, mental health | Tw: @MariamK95 Insta: teaandmaz

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